Supporting Your Son’s Mental Health: We’re In This Together
Raising boys to be emotionally aware, resilient and mentally strong doesn’t come with a perfect roadmap. Some days it’s clear skies. Other days, it’s stormy. At St Augustine’s College, we understand that supporting boys’ mental health isn’t a one-person job - it’s something we all do, together.
That’s why we recently invited parents and carers of our Years 5 and 7 students to a wellbeing-focused evening. Led by our Dean of Student Wellbeing, Illona Welch, the session brought together voices from across our College’s Pastoral Care network. One thing came through loud and clear: when school and home pull in the same direction, boys flourish.
Understanding Anxiety: A Normal Part of Growing Up
Here’s a question we often hear: Does my child have anxiety?
And the honest answer? Sometimes- yes. And that’s okay.
Every child (and every adult, too) feels anxious now and then. It’s part of being human. That nervous energy before a test, a flutter in the stomach before speaking in front of a group - that’s our brain trying to help us focus, prepare, and stay alert.
But sometimes, those feelings stick around longer than they should. And that’s when they can start to get in the way
The Trap of Avoidance
When a boy feels anxious, his first instinct might be to avoid whatever’s making him uncomfortable. If public speaking is overwhelming, he might try to skip the class presentation. And while that can bring temporary relief, it also sends a powerful message to his brain: This really is dangerous.
The more we avoid, the bigger anxiety grows. It’s like feeding a worry monster - it just keeps coming back for more.
At St Augustine’s College, part of how we support boys through the AWE Framework is helping them face these moments gently, with support. We encourage small steps, positive experiences, and the reminder that you can do this - even if it feels scary at first.
When Anxiety Becomes Something More
So, how do you know if it’s time to take a closer look at your son’s anxiety?
Here are a few signs that may mean he needs a little extra support:
Avoiding school, sport or social activities
Frequent worry, anger, or tearfulness
Trouble sleeping, settling or concentrating
Anxiety that’s interfering with day-to-day life
If some of this sounds familiar, know this: you’re not alone - and there’s help. Early support can make a big difference in how your child learns to manage and move through anxiety.
What You Can Do
Start by having a quiet, open conversation. You don’t need all the right words - just let him know you’re there. Being present and listening without rushing to fix it is powerful.
And if you’re unsure of what to do next, reach out to your GP. They can point you towards trusted resources or mental health professionals.
The Black Dog Institute is also a great starting point - it offers practical, evidence-based tools for families.
Final Thoughts
Raising boys isn’t always straightforward - and no one expects you to do it alone. At St Augustine’s College, we walk alongside you through the highs, the lows, and everything in between.
Through programs like AWE and our strong home-school partnerships, we’re not just helping boys succeed in the classroom. We’re helping them grow into emotionally intelligent, kind and capable young men.
Because when our boys feel supported from the inside out, they’re ready to take on the world - and thrive.
